Love- it’s a tricky thing… especially when you decide to do it with someone that isn’t in the same town, state or even, like me, the same country. Evan (Canadian) and I (Australian) met in Australia and started dating about 9 months ago and in that time, we have been long-distance for a total of 5 months. So, let me fill you in on a few ways that we have managed to make surviving a long-distance relationship as bearable as possible.
- Skype/ Video chat
This is something I would consider absolutely essential. Talking on the phone is great and all, but there’s something still missing (obviously besides the person *IN-person.) As I said, Evan and I have done the whole long-distance thing twice and the first time I was in the middle of Papua New Guinea with very limited internet access. That meant we could only voice call over Facebook about once a fortnight or sometimes weekly. It was really hard to only hear his voice and not see his cute little face. The second time I was back home in Australia and we both had enough internet to be able to video-chat. It’s obviously still not super ideal… but it’s definitely the best option we currently have to ease the heart-ache.
2. Have virtual dates
First of all, praise the Lord for the internet. This tip, yet again, requires the internet and I know having a “virtual Skype date” sounds a bit cheesy but trust me, this is one of the best things we did. Think about the stuff you both like and have in common then consider how to get the other person involved. For example, Evan and I both like movies so we would call over Facebook, minimise the window, then choose a Netflix movie to play at the same time. I know what you’re thinking and yes, I had many weird looks from my family but as I said, it’s definitely one of the best things we did to do something together.
3. Celebrate Special occasions
Spending significant occasions/ dates “alone” can be hard for anyone doing the distance so why not make it a little easier for your significant other. Sending them a little something as a reminder of how much you love them and can’t wait to see them can mean the world. It doesn’t have to be a big expensive gift, but even something as simple as a cheap bunch of flowers, chocolate, a card or even a sweet Facebook message can make someone feel so loved.
4. Include each other in E.V.E.R.Y.T.H.I.N.G.
There’s so much happening if both of your separate lives that some things can seem insignificant, but I encourage you to write everything down from how great that meal you cooked the other day was to what you’ve got on in the upcoming week. Sharing what’s been going on is a great way to make the other person feel included in your life, even if that can’t be physically.
5. Keep a journal
Keeping a journal over the period of being apart is a great way to not only unload how you’re feeling but it can also turn into a great gift! Just before I left for Papua New Guinea (the first time we were apart) Evan asked me what I wanted for my birthday. I presented him with a small blank book and asked him to fill it out. We both filled out the journals and exchanged them once reunited. It’s by far my favourite thing Evan has given me and whilst we were apart the second time, I reread it every now and then and shed a tear or two, EVERY. DANG. TIME. Maybe he filled it with dust… I don’t know 😉
Long-distance relationship can be very hard and testing at times, but they do eventually result in a reunion. I also found it useful to remind myself of things I’m looking forward to doing whilst together and that being apart was just a temporary.
I hope these tips are things you can try out and make being apart a little easier. Let me know if you have any more long-distance tips in the comments or if you tried these out, did they help?